Thursday, January 21, 2010

My mom is mentally abused by my Dad


My mom is mentally abused by my Dad?
Well, we are in America so my dad is scared of going to jail so he only do mentally abuse which is very hard to prove. Although once he punched a Mexican in the face for no reason, he got fired and have to pay money to that guy. Anyways he got away with it. He never pay the rent/phone bill/ or anything that cast him money. And everything we talk to him about money he gets piss and yell at my mom and talk on phone all day so she couldn't sleep. And he will say things like i wish your mother dies,You are all bad kids. Anyways and he will say things like I will kick your brother out of my house ( My brother is in Burma,living in "my mom's" house but hes relatives are there and) anyways my brother couldn't come and he has to live in burma with my dad's relatives. I don't think my brother has no where to live, but my mom is really worry and she is very scared of my dad. I am a very strong person but idk how i can help my mom, she is depress all the time
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1 :
She has to do it. to make a plan and leave your dad. Your dad has a temper and is a bully. The outbursts will only get worse. Go to a shelter asap..
2 :
I'm sorry this is happening to your family. You and your mom will continue to suffer if you don't leave. If he can't pay for what he's done to your mom (I agree that it is hard to prove) just leave and don't make it worse. I feel bad for your mom and I hope she gets better, tell her that you all need get away from him. It's not healthy for her. I wish you all the luck. Leave as soon as possible! Things will get better if you work at it, you don't have to continue to live like this.
3 :
Sounds like you and your mom need to get help to get away from him. Mental abuse is just as damaging, and can be even worse than physical abuse. Your dad sounds like he has a lot of problems, and it's convenient for him to take them out on his family, since that's the only people who have to put up with it. If you have any close friends close to you see if your mom can ask them for some help to get through this tough time. If she moves away from him, she will be eligible for some financial aid through the state to help with paying bills and getting groceries. If your dad sees that your mom has had enough of the way he is treating her and your whole family, maybe he will try to get help for himself as well. I'm glad to hear you are a strong person, because you need to be for your mom.
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Yes you are right, your dad is mentally abusing your mom, but he's doing it to you as well. He may think he's so smart by not physically abusing you but he is doing as much or more harm to his family with his verbal abuse. Your dad can only get away with his cr@p for as long as your mom let's him. She may think she has no options, but there are many available to her and none of them are worse than staying in his home. Don't let your dad's threats concerning your brother in Burma influence you or your mom. He is trying to use this to control you, but if he can't control the people who are right in front of him, how can he have any control over someone on the opposite side of the world? Your dad behaves this way because he is afraid your mom will leave him. He needs her more than she needs him right now, and he will do and say anything to keep her and his children from leaving. Fortunately your dad fears jail even more. Use that to your advantage, call the police and get their assistance in getting you, your mom, and your brothers and sisters into a shelter. If your mom truly owns the house in Burma, then she is the one who decides who can and can't live in it, so you can use that fact to your advantage where your brother is concerned as well.






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